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You Can’t Tell Where It Comes From

I’m sure you’ve heard the joke about Texas weather before – you know, if you don’t like the weather wait 20 minutes and it will change. If you thought this was just a funny statement, I can assure you this is not just comedy, it’s the truth.

See, one very hot and humid August day last year, I was helping on the sideline at my son’s football game. The temperature was above 100 degrees. We were playing on a field that offered no shade or break from the intense heat. We setup a tent for our team so the boys could rotate in and out of the game and get a break.

I was playing the role of “water-mom” making sure all the bottles were filled. Feeling a sense of accomplishment that all six bottles were full and waiting for the players, I decided to sit down under our tent and take a much needed break.

You know that feeling when you’ve been going and going and you finally sit down and you realize how tired you are? Yes? Then, insert that emotion here.

So there I am, I’m sitting on the sideline. Hot and tired under a tent.  Not bothering anyone. When all of a sudden a gust of wind comes out of nowhere. Like, there hasn’t been any wind all afternoon.

The tent comes out of the ground and flies away. At first I didn’t move thinking it was a lost cause (and did I mention I was hot, tired and emotionally drained?).

But then, the wind stopped (and I came out of my trance). So I jump up to grab the tent.

Right when I reached the tent, you can probably guess what happened. The wind started blowing again, but in the opposite direction. So, naturally, the tent that was blowing AWAY from me is not blowing directly INTO me.

The top of the tent is now on top of my head and relentlessly slamming into my body. (Insert emotion of feeling like you must look like an idiot.)

I yelled, “Oh no!!!”

Right about this time, a kind stranger came running over and grabbed the tent. He not so kindly yelled for me to “get out there” as if I had chosen this position on purpose…

Together, we were able to stabilize the tent. We restaked it and thankfully we were able to use it for the remainder of the game.

AFTER the game, my “friends” (and son) told me how ridiculous I looked getting attacked by a tent. I vaguely remember seeing them pointing and laughing too. I’ve forgiven them in the months since the incident. In fact, I’d completely forgotten about the entire debacle until yesterday when I reading my Bible while the boys were at swim practice.

John 3:5-8: Jesus answered, “Very truly I tell you, no one can enter the kingdom of God unless they are born of water and the Spirit. Flesh gives birth to flesh, but the Spirit gives birth to spirit. You should not be surprised at my saying, ‘You must be born again.’ The wind blows wherever it pleases. You hear its sound, but you cannot tell where it comes from or where it is going. So it is with everyone born of the Spirit.”

The wind (especially in Texas!) truly does blow wherever it pleases.

So does the Holy Spirit of God. When we accept Christ and receive His Holy Spirit, we should begin to expect the unexpected.

I have found when I surrender to the guidance of the Spirit I am in for an adventure. The plans God has for me are beyond my expectations and my wildest imagination.

As I told you in my previous post, the Lord led me to go back into the corporate world. Remember, I wasn’t looking for a job. But God – in His ultimate wisdom – knew that me returning to work was exactly what my family needed. He prepared the way for me completely. And then He prepared me – He softened my heart and made corporate America appealing to me. The peace that I have about making this transition is so unexpected that I know it has only come from God and being in the center of His will for my life at this time

The Holy Spirit blew this change into my life and as the scripture says, I could hear His sound, but I didn’t know He was coming or where we were going.

I have found the Spirit will blow me in several ways:

To Move: These are times when I am traveling down a certain path and the Spirit changes my direction. Really, this is about me getting out of the way of God’s blessing. God wants to do a new thing and I’m stuck on the old thing. So He sends His Spirit to blow me out of my own way. It’s hard sometimes to see the value in the call to move from the front, but when you turn around and look back, the view is clear and awesome!

To Start: Sometimes, the Spirit will urge me to create a new habit. Earlier this year, the Spirit told me to record the blessings of the Lord. Since January, I have been writing down prayer request and recording the answers to those prayers. I’ve also been recording times when the Lord worked on my behalf or showed me favor in a situation. I’ve written down the blessings He’s placed in my children’s lives as well.  My next step is to start a blessings wall somewhere in my house – the wall will have sticky notes where anyone – myself, my husband, kids, family, friends, visitors – can write down a blessing they have received from the Lord. The idea is to remember the benefits of a relationship with the Lord.

To Stop: Often times, I over-commit myself. The Spirit told me to STOP. I was Football League President, PTA President, teaching classes at church, attending a Bible Study…the list goes on! The Spirit told me something had to go – and nothing could replace it. Somethings that are good, just aren’t a part of God’s plan for my life at this moment. If I want His best for me, then I have to agree that He knows what’s best for me.

To Speak: Truthfully, in my life, this one is more about NOT speaking. Every thought that comes into my mind is not meant to be shared. The Bible tells us that we have to take our thoughts captive and get control of our tongues. I have to yield to the Spirit blowing me to shut my mouth. And when He does tell me to speak and I say the words He has given me, I’m not up in the middle of the night wondering if I’ve offended someone or how I will reconcile a relationship.

When I’m blown by the Holy Spirit to move, to start, to stop, to speak – without a doubt I know that it’s Him. I can hear His sound, but I cannot tell where He comes from or where He’s going. But I just know I need to act!

I love that! It comforting to know that God wants to be personally involved in my life – if I will let Him. God wants to send me opportunities and blessings and unexplainable joy and content peace – if I’m willing to be blown by Him.

Are you willing?

My prayer is that the Lord would help me to sit still long enough to hear His wind moving in my life.


Seasons Change

Sometimes you think you know where you are heading.

You can see exactly where you are going and you can calculate when you are going to arrive.

And then, when you least expect it, things change.

Every plan you had is interrupted.

Every ending you saw in sight has disappeared.

Now on the horizon is a totally different future.


In August 2009, I left my full-time job in the Media and Advertising world to pursue my desire to run a business fulltime. That year, the boys were 9, 7 and 3 years old. My life felt crazy and out of control. My job was overly stressful and the hours were ridiculous. What had once been a joyous experience where I felt fulfilled became a burdensome experience where I felt completely drained. When I left, I vowed I never wanted to return to that industry again.

I spent the next 5 years growing and running a successful business. I had a storefront for a couple years. I had a beautiful office space for a while. Eventually, I moved the entire operation to a spare bedroom (and any other open nook and cranny) at my house.

Working from home has been wonderful. Being my own boss has been awesome. I decided what I was going to do each day. I decided when I would work. I decided what type of work I wanted to do. Over the years, FCS Creations has taken many forms – from a wedding and stationery business to a spirit wear business to a personalized gifts and accessories business. When I was bored with producing a product, it went away. When I wanted to add a new product, overnight a new line was launched. What a great experience for a scatterbrain like me!

But, the downside of being your own boss is you are responsible for everything. From Marketing to Accounting to Production to Shipping to New Product Development to Strategic Alliances – I wear all the hats.

The other downside is that entrepreneurship in a semi-retail environment can be very unpredictable. What worked last year, may not work this year. I’m always looking for the next thing. What’s going to be hot next? What was hot last year? Is it still hot or at least lukewarm this year?

It can be exhausting and depressing and inspiring all at the same time. I find myself in a state of bipolar-ness. I have really high highs where I feel like I’ve finally found the paydirt (Gold Rush TV Show reference). And I have really low lows where I’m not sure when or if the next dollar will come.

But God.

In the midst of a low season (after a super high high) God called me to completely change course.

He sent me an unexpected opportunity to return to the corporate world.

I didn’t expect it. I didn’t see it coming. I wasn’t even looking for it.

God prepared the way completely for me and called me back to my first love of Media Buying.

I always LOVED the scope of my job.  See, being a Media Buyer validates my excessive television addiction. Now, I watch TV for work! I’ve got to know what the shows are about in order to successful buy them!

Another drawback to my previous corporate experience was that it had a harsh daily commute.

My new position doesn’t require me to get on the highway at all. In fact, I only go through 8 traffic lights to get to work now.

My hours are great – amazing actually.

And I get paid to do something that I love and that validates the reason I took out all those student loans…

Now, I can fill my free time with my creative passion. Which means if there’s a reason to give a gift, I’m probably going to make it myself. If a friend or previous customer wants to purchase an FCS Creation, they can – I just will not be able to work on it until evening time or weekends (so plan ahead and accordingly y’all! LOL)

So my friends, seasons change. The outlook changes. The movie of your daily life changes.

I’m thankful that when God called me I was listening. I didn’t miss the call or let it go to voicemail. I have to make sure I’m sensitive to the Holy Spirit so I don’t miss the signals that He’s calling me to a new direction.

The whole situation reminded me of a hymn we used to sing in my grandparents church.

“Jesus calls us o’er the tumult
of our life’s wild, restless sea;
day by day His sweet voice soundeth,
saying, ‘Christian, follow me!’ ”

Is God calling you to make a change? Are you listening for His voice?

I’m In Love With The Maintenance Man

Late the other night I walked into the halfway and flipped the light switch.

Nothing happened.

My husband was in our bedroom at the end of the halfway. I walked in and casually said, “The light is out in the halfway.”

Can you guess what happened next?

My husband says to me “I guess that means the Maintenance Man needs to fix it huh.” (With that little twinge of attitude that makes a wife defensive…)

Believe me when I say I didn’t tell him about the light so that he would fix it. I was simply stating a fact. I mean, the light WAS out. But that’s not the way he took it. I even apologized and said I would replace the bulb myself. (I even said it without any attitude – can you believe that?!?)

It made he think though. I do rely on my husband for just about EVERYTHING around the house.

Toilet will not flush? Don’t use this bathroom until your daddy gets home.

Check engine light on? Honey can I drive your car – something is wrong with mine.

Vaccuum cleaner belt broken? Babe, can you replace this, please?

So yeah, when the light in the hallway didn’t come on. I suppose subconsciously I was putting in a request for the Maintenance Man.

He really does take care of me (and our sons, our house, our cars, our everything).

And I really don’t want to take him for granted.

So, I was determined to show my gratitude (and independence – let’s just be honest here) and I was going to replace that light myself. But, in true crazy overcommitted mom fashion…I forgot.

And in true Maintenance Man fashion, the next time I recall flipping that hallway switch, the light came on. I flipped it about 3 more times before I even remembered I was supposed to replace it.

Man, I love that Maintenance Man. He rocks! I love him! I’m gonna have to bake him a cake or something.heartChanda

Worthy of Display

I’m not sure where to start with this post. So I’m just going to jump right in.

For the last couple weeks, I’ve been unconvinced that I could publicly call myself a Kingdom Woman.

First, I thought I couldn’t be a Kingdom Woman because I just don’t have it all together. But I quickly discovered through my readings that being a Kingdom Woman is not defined by having it all together.

Dr. Tony Evans defines her this way: “A Kingdom Woman is a female operating under the rule of God in every area of life.” That definition does reflect the true desire of heart.

But really, could this be me? So much self doubt kept me from believing I could PUBLICLY call myself a Kingdom Woman.

Yesterday, I had the opportunity to hear Chrystal Hurst, the co-author of the book speak about the Journey of a Kingdom Woman. You know that feeling when you hear a message and you realize God is speaking directly to your heart and your situation?

Chrystal talked about the process of a diamond coming out of the deepest parts of the earth and going through a refining process. She also told us that the final beautiful product that we all cherish and desire is not perfect – it has flaws, but in the end, it’s still worthy of display.

Is this me? Flawed, yet still worthy of display?

What I’m learning to embrace is that if I live for Christ and publicly proclaim my quest to be a Kingdom Woman, Christ can use me to draw others to HIM.

And I’ve seen this happen several times in just the last week. Several friends have asked me what this Kingdom Woman thing I keep talking about. Some have purchased the book. They are now on their own journey to embrace biblical womanhood. If I hide in the corner and keep this to myself, I will miss opportunities to be used by God.

I also realized that Satan wants me to live defeated.

Satan wants me to feel unworthy.

Satan wants me to give in to my self doubt.

BUT, when I embrace my True calling as a Kingdom Woman, I remember and proclaim I am a daughter of the King.

Jesus said, “You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you so that you might go and bear fruit—fruit that will last—and so that whatever you ask in my name the Father will give you.” John 15:16

Chosen. Appointed. Directed. Favored by the King of KINGS.

How empowering. How motivating. How amazing!

Jesus knows my faults and fears and yet He still wants to use me.

How humbling!

So I’m breaking free from my own negative self-talk (weight watchers anyone?) and proclaiming PUBLICLY:

Yes, I am a Kingdom Woman – worthy of display!938467ac65c49edb4013c609768a7d42


3 Things Thursday: Confessions of a Work in Progress

Today’s post is inspired by Chrystal Evans Hurst’s blog post of her 20 personal policies.

I thought I would share just 3 things today. Only 3 because if I shared more, you might just learn too much about me in one day – let’s spread it out a little why don’t we.

photo(30)Here are my 3 confessions for this week – very, very small things drive me bananas:

    1. Happy New Year is the most annoying greeting in the WORLD to me! Why? Because it goes on way to long. I think there should be a time limit on how long the phrase can be used. Like, if I see you on January 1st, ok – that’s fine. BUT, but, but, if I don’t see you until January 13th, then NO, you can’t STILL say Happy New Year to me – you’ve missed your chance – I’ve moved on.
    2. Good Morning. Good Morning makes my blood bubble. When I worked in an office cubicle setting the 8 to 9 am hour was the pits. All those sparkly, happy people greeting each other back and forth.
      Tim: Good Morning, Jane
      Jane: Good Morning, Tim
      Tim: Oh Becky, I didn’t see you at your desk! Good Morning, Becky
      Becky: Good Morning, Tim
      ARGH! Can’t everyone just go to their desk and put their headphones in a wait quietly until 9 am when I feel like being social?
    3. Happy Birthday. This is another one that goes back to my cubicle days. You know that office tradition where everyone decorates your cube for your birthday? Well my cube was near the kitchen so all day coworkers who I’ve never met before (and I haven’t talked to since my last birthday) would stop by and say a cheery Happy Birthday! Which would force me to respond with an with an equally cheery “Oh, Thanks!” How about if you don’t know me, just skip it, really, I don’t mind!

I know after reading these confessions you may be slightly (or majorly) concerned about me….

Probably rightly so.

But there’s hope and help for me!

James 5:16 says “Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.”

Get to praying friends! Apparently I need it….




Who Is This Kingdom Woman?

Kingdom Woman.

When I first heard the title, I was instantly intimidated.

Surely this Kingdom Woman has it ALL together, right.

Surely she’s just like that Proverbs 31 woman who’s always making me feel inferior, right?

Surely her house is in order, she’s a wonderful chef and her children are always tidy and obedient, right?

How could one be a Kingdom Woman if one is not perfect….right?

In God’s ongoing quest to let me know that He sees me, He had Dr. Tony Evans and Chrystal Evans Hurst write a book just to me to show me exactly who this Kingdom Woman is.

I was happy to learn this Kingdom Woman is just like me in a lot of ways. Chrystal, the co-author, is a wife and mother who’s spinning plates and juggling schedules and duties just like me. Her writing is so genuine, authentic and real (she said there’s sticky stuff on her floor too!).

After reading her first Chrystal’s Chronicles entry, I started to thinking maybe being a Kingdom Woman was attainable.

995125_10151567238767992_603367216_nIn the closing paragraphs of chapter one, Dr. Evans writes, “Let your actions, thoughts and words reflect a heart that seeks to honor God above all else. As you do, God will continue to give you what you need to develop into the Kingdom Woman you are destined to be.”

So here are a couple truths I’ve learned so far:

  • If I give my actions, thoughts and deeds to the Lord, He will produce in me what He desires me to be – a Kingdom Woman – a woman chasing after His heart.
  • Kingdom Woman does not mean “got it together all the time” woman.
  • What your friends (and foes) think or say about you does not help/hinder your quest to be a Kingdom Woman. (I’m still praying to be freed from the opinions of others!)

All this and I’m JUST wrapping up chapter one.

I think the most exciting part to me about this book so far is learning that I AM a Kingdom Woman! A work in progress, yes, but a Kingdom Woman nonetheless!

I will be sharing more of my insights as I journey through the book. Get your copy so we can share nuggets over McNuggets…I’m not to that chapter that talks about a healthy lifestyle yet….

#KingdomWoman is HERE! Buy it today!






You Talk To Much!

So, I made a mistake.

I went off the cuff and said something I shouldn’t have to someone I shouldn’t have about someone else.

Ever done that? Feel awful about it afterwards? Obviously I know the feeling!

I thought my actions were warranted and soon found out they were just a half-baked selfish reaction.

Lessons learned:

  • Sometimes it’s best to keep your opinions to yourself. In my imagination, I can see Jesus in the garden telling the father I can’t believe you stuck me with this sorry disciples! I asked them to pray for me as I prepare to sacrifice myself for them and these fellas are sleeping. Nope, instead Jesus kept his opinion to himself.
  • If you have an issue with someone, pray FIRST. Prayer will take your emotional reaction and put it in it’s proper place. Prayer will take the focus off your will and put the focus on God’s will being accomplished – remember, not my will but Your will be done.
  • If God’s response to your prayer is a specific action, then take that action. Don’t dilly dally – act right away. Don’t call three friends and get their opinion on what God told you to do. The Bible says if you have a problem with someone go to them – not your homegirl.

The saddest part about these lessons learned is that I already have learned these lessons in the past!

Realizing that I have once again fallen short and failed the same test again makes me thankful.

Thankful that God doesn’t toss us aside when we are stubborn and disobedient.

Thankful that the Holy Spirit brings conviction and helps me recognize sin as sin.

Thankful that confessing my sin brings me back into fellowship with my Savior.

Thankful that I can then toss my pride to the side and apologize to those I hurt and be reconciled to them as well.


She Blessed Me

I just wrapped up my fourth year as a student in Bible Study Fellowship – a weekly Bible study that I attend on Wednesday morning during the school year.

This year, we studied the book of Genesis. It was an awesome study. The life applications that can be learned from this historical accounting of God’s chosen patriarchs is amazing. I have a totally new perspective on how God uses people – flawed people – to accomplish His will.

Each BSF class is made up of small groups of 10-12 people. In the past, I have been in groups were I didn’t quite connect with the ladies. We always seemed to be at different life stages. When I received my call from group leader over the summer, I was sure this year was going to be more of the same.

My group leader was a soft spoken southern belle named Dixie. I just knew I was going to be in the saintly seniors group (again) – where everyone was a grandmother and I was the only one with kids at home. My husband encouraged me and told me I was going to be surrounded by wisdom. I thanked him for his hopefulness, but I was still a bit down.

I wanted to be in a group with ladies who were in the same boat as myself – wives who want to please God and be a helper to their husband, a mom who’s striving to lead her kids to Christ, a daughter trying to find her own way and yet still honor her parents. I had high hopes for this group.

Well, I guess you can’t judge a group by the voice of it’s leader because God gave me EVERYTHING I hoped for in my small group. The BEST group of ladies, better than I could have hoped or dreamed.

And in a way that only God can do, He gave me what we call in Louisiana – a little bit of lagniappe – something extra. God gave me Dixie! The sweetest, kindest, most loving, genuine and authentic group leader EVER.

Dixie showed me what it looks like to lead by example. She showed me how to make prayer a priority in relationships with friends. She showed me that being a little of a rebel is ok. She showed me love. She mentored me. And at the end of our year together, she blessed me.

Yes, she blessed my heart with her actions and deeds and loving ways. But she actually blessed me. She wrote out a card with a prayer of blessing for me. Words that only a connected leader who took an interest in me and my life and situations would pray for me. She prayed a blessing over my future endeavors for Jesus. She blessed me.

And not just me. She took the time to bless each lady in our group. I know we will cherish our cards for years to come.

I was transformed by Genesis and Dixie. Thank you God for “seeing me” and giving me what you knew I needed when I didn’t even know what I needed myself.


I Saw Freedom

A couple weeks ago I attended a women’s conference at a local church. My very presence at this conference was an act of obedience to the Holy Spirit. See, my friend and I were able to attend this conference for free. The tickets were $75-$100 each, a price that neither of us was prepared to pay.

OK – here’s the whole story.

I was out running errands and I decided to stop by my church to chat with my pastor. As I got close to the church I kept thinking I shouldn’t stop by – I should make an appointment or what if he’s busy and I’m interrupting. I had about 5 different reasons pop into my head about why I should not go to the church.

When I pulled into the church I had to will my body out of the car. And then even when I rang the bell to be buzzed in, I still felt so much anxiety about being there. So when the lady inside answered the bell, with a quiver in my voice, I announced myself and the reason I was there. She told our pastor wasn’t in at the moment. I said thank you and left.

I instantly started saying to myself this is why you shouldn’t have come here. He’s not even her. You’ve just embarrassed yourself. What must they think of you now – stopping by uninvited – where are your manners!

Minutes later, I received a message saying the church had tickets to this conference if I would like to go.

At that point, I realized THAT was why the Lord sent me by the church. Not so I could spend a few minutes chatting with my pastor. But so that I would be put on the mind of the lady inside as someone who was available during the day to attend this conference.

The Lord wanted me at this conference because He needed to speak to me. See, I have always struggled with people pleasing and what others thought about me. I can mentally rationalize and understand that the opinions of others isn’t important, but little did I know at the moment that the Lord had a plan to SHOW me this concept.

The conference was held at a contemporary church – like praise team with a rock band vibe – know what I mean? The praise was awesome. The atmosphere was enthralling. The music was loud and vibrant.

At one point during the worship time, I glanced over to my right and I saw a lady in the aisle worshiping the Lord. I have never in my life seen anyone worship in this manner before.

8679927_sHer arms weren’t just raised in the way I’m so accustomed to see them.
Her head wasn’t just bowed in humbleness.
But instead she gracefully waved her arms like a skilled ballerina.
Her eyes were closed and she smiled as if she was surrounded by angels crying holy, holy, holy!
Her feet moved ever so slightly as she rhythmically swayed to the beat.
Can you see her?

She worshiped the Lord with complete abandon.
She didn’t care who watched her.
She didn’t care if the music stopped.
She didn’t care about watching the screen for the lyrics.
She just danced before Jesus!

And in watching her, I realized that I was watching freedom. And as I watched her FREEDOM just came to my mind over and over again. Freedom, freedom, freedom. This is what it looks like.

“It is for FREEDOM that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.” Galatians 5:1

Oh, to be free from the opinions of others!

I saw freedom. My prayer is the Lord will help me to walk in the liberty, too.

To worship Him with my whole heart. To praise Him with my whole being. To not care what others think, but only to concentrate on pleasing him.

FREEDOM! I saw it and it was beautiful!


Peace Unforfeited

Is unforfeited even a word? I’m thinking it’s not…but maybe you get the idea of what I mean.

At church the other night, one of the ministers sang “What a friend we have in Jesus.” It’s been a long time since I’ve heard this song. As he sang, one particular line really stood out to me.

“Oh what peace we often forfeit. Oh what needless pain we bear. All because we do not carry, everything to God in prayer.”

Sounds so simple. But how often have I sacrificed peace by now taking my cares to the Lord. I’ve taken my problems to friends and family and asked for their opinions and views. I’ve read the Bible and attended Bible study to hear from the Lord. I’ve even asked others to pray for me. But in my life, there have been times where I have neglected spending time with the Lord in prayer.

I know what the Bible says: Cast your cares upon Him for He cares for you. Everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving make your request known to the Lord. Pray without ceasing.

Ever since that moment, I’ve decided to stop forfeiting my peace! Peace Unforfeited as I’m fond of saying in my head. I’ve decided to make 2013 a year of purposeful prayer. For me, that means more of an intentional time of prayer. Not just quickie prayers, but practicing the discipline of praying and listening.